Friends: trials and blessings

“If somebody asks me, “What is the biggest blessing that ever happened to you?” I won’t say money, degree, or any material gifts. I would say, “Friends”. Friends are the biggest blessing that Allah has ever bestowed upon me throughout my whole life. The friend that always reminds me of Allah, the hereafter, the reason why I remain steadfast in deen of Islam. The people who corrects me when I do something wrong and I, deep down, really appreciate whenever they did do that. They are the ones who put values in my life and taught me about a lot of things that cannot be bought by money or traded with any material things in this world. Thank you for the lessons and things unseen to the eyes. I wish I could mention each one of my friends who changed my life and filled my days with beautiful memories, but it won’t ever be enough to express how grateful I am to have each one of them in my life. My sisters and brothers in Islam, know that you played a huge role in my life. Barakallahu feekum, jazakallahu khairan katsiran. Aamiin yaa rabbal alamin.” *** I posted this on my snap gram on 13th of February, 2018. I was in the KTX from Busan on my way to Seoul, listening to Mufti Menk’s podcast about the blessings of friends in our life (if you want to watch/listen, see the youtube video below or simply click this link!). That day, I officially moved to Busan after I spent almost one-year studying the Korean language. Now it’s my time to start my degree in Korea University, Seoul, and start a new life here. It was hard and difficult to leave, to be honest, because I was already comfortable with my life there and have good friends, really really good friends. They are my sisters that I met in Al-Fatah Mosque Dusil and my KGSP friend from Egypt, Amira. Of course, I have other friends as well, but they are the ones I am closest with, whom I talked to a lot. And by talking means, no simple talking but deep and meaningful conversations, sharing and exchanging our thoughts about Islam, world, politics, social-economy to jinns, universe, science, technology, and even marriages! HAHAHA they are the best! I love my friends, of course, my friends in Indonesia are included, the people that I probably have mentioned in the previous posts. The precious ones in my life who probably doesn’t realize that their aspirations, ambitions, and views about this life inspired me to keep moving on in this life. Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah. “The Prophet (ﷺ) said: A man follows the religion of his friend;  so each one should consider whom he makes his friend. (Narrated by Abu Hurayrah)” This past few weeks, the last two months to be precise, I was having a rough time of discovering myself to new paths of life. It was quite short but an unforgettable experience. It was exciting but hurts so much, that I really didn’t expect it at all. It was rather a painful journey. I am afraid I cannot tell the details of what happened because it includes some privacy of some people, and due to that I will just paint the big picture. Moreover, it is not our way in Islam to talk bad about others in front of other people and put a bad image on them (May Allah forgives us). Yes, we do make mistakes and sometimes we forgot, but everyone has a chance to forgive and learn.  I’d rather lose one or two friends that possibly caused me to go astray from the goodness or lead me to destruction than to lose my relationship with Allah Azza Wa Jalla. We make mistakes but we always have two or more choices and give a free-will. We are given brains to think and reflect on every matter that happened in our lives but sometimes our hearts are contradictory to each other.  Whatever doubts you have: remember to always trust your gut feeling, it’s right most of the time, InshaAllah. And always put your trust in Allah, ask him to guide you and your heart to the best choice only, for your Dunya (world) and akhirah. It is only win-or-win solution whenever you put your trust in Allah, be tawakkal, of course, do your part first by doing ikhtiar and then you can leave the rest to Allah.   “Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each other,  except for the righteous…” (Qur’an 43:67- 73)